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Scotty wrote:
"katy" wrote in message ... wrote: Don White wrote: David OHara I'm really glad you posted this and htat I read it before ripping you a new one that would have been the size of the GrandCanyon... When I was younger, I blamed everything on my wife, too. But now I'm more mature, or is it 'trained'. Scotty ....trained....you'll do almost anything for a Ritz cracker with squirty cheese on it... |
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I always have trouble coming up with appropriate post titles. Next time, can I ask you?
It isn't often realized just what a vital safety device a towed dinghy is in situations like this. Even in Maine's high and thus fast falling, tides, I've jumped in the dinghy, hooked the anchor over the transom, rowed it out, and been back on the boat fast enough to pull off with the anchor rode led to a jib halyard winch before the tide fell enough to stick fast. You really have to jump though when working against a 12 foot tide. If this doesn't work, put a block on the anchor line and run it up the mast with a halyard. Winching the anchor line will then heel the boat powerfully, reducing the draft as you drag the boat off. -- Roger Long |
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Leave the wife home. Obviously she can not contribute to the solution of the
problem, she can only make matters worse. Just think of what might have happened if someone was injured or quick action was needed to prevent catastrophe. The icing on the cake is to mention to her how lonely her retirement will be when you are out sailing the world - without her. I do not understand why men are expected to cater to women's emotionally driven whims and are expected to "apologize" for not understanding. Why aren't women expected to understand men? Why is it assumed that women are so handicapped? Why must men yield to this emotional terrorism? Women are wired for dealing with children, other women and some family matters. Men are wired for dealing with the external world - things such as attacking beasts, danger, dinosaurs, thugs, science, sailing and the like. In your situation there was a conflict between the manly world and the woman's world. It looks like the costliest solution won. It is unfortunate that the great and powerful mind of that Master Mariner Capt Neal is not here to contribute further on this subject. I am certain that he would add brilliant insight. |
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Frogwatch wrote:
Vic Smith wrote: On 19 Nov 2006 20:53:52 -0800, " wrote: Don White wrote: wrote: snip.. They tow us to the dock and I go to pay. By this time I was seriously happy to be off the boat with my wife so even *the astonishing cost of $480* didn't faze me much. It was $10/ft for the ungrounding (28' sailboat) and then $165 minimum and a couple other fees. snip... Whoo hoo! Around here the Coast Guard...or some friendly boater will always come to the rescue...for free. Re-thinking this, I regret posting it. It has me blaming my wife for my predicament when I had nobody but myslf to blame. If I had displayed much more confidence and a fun atitude I could probably have talked my wife into enjoying the overnight grounding. Unfortunately, I consider sailing to be an excercise in problem solving so I do not sail for the same reasons she does. I DID invite her. I apologize. Well, you had me convinced you were right the first time, and now you've convinced me again. Have you considered sales? I do like the second convincing more. --Vic I think I have gotten too confident in problem solving without taking into account the human dimension. This is probably why I enjoy single handed sailing. The solution would really have been to wait. There was no danger although it is supposed to hit 30 degrees tonight. With two cell phones, nobody would have to worry about us. Even if the wind direcion did not change and I was unable to rig a fuel feed. SOMEBODY would be coming down that channel on Monday. I sulked the entire night after it happened cuz it really hurt my pride. I probably should go make amends. See ya. Depends on the tides also. If you have a keel boat and the tides fall three or more feet, you could have had a very uncomfortable night. |
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Larry wrote:
"Frogwatch" wrote in news:1164000104.521584.101920 @e3g2000cwe.googlegroups.com: I probably should go make amends. No problem. The mall diamond stores open at 9AM, right on time.... Larry That could be a dangerous thing to do. The wife may expect similar offerings everytime he's wrong. |
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Gilligan wrote:
snip... It is unfortunate that the great and powerful mind of that Master Mariner Capt Neal is not here to contribute further on this subject. I am certain that he would add brilliant insight. Yeah... he'd be squealing like a school girl! |
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On Mon, 20 Nov 2006 15:20:45 GMT, Don White
wrote: wrote: Don White wrote: wrote: snip.. They tow us to the dock and I go to pay. By this time I was seriously happy to be off the boat with my wife so even *the astonishing cost of $480* didn't faze me much. It was $10/ft for the ungrounding (28' sailboat) and then $165 minimum and a couple other fees. snip... Whoo hoo! Around here the Coast Guard...or some friendly boater will always come to the rescue...for free. Re-thinking this, I regret posting it. It has me blaming my wife for my predicament when I had nobody but myslf to blame. If I had displayed much more confidence and a fun atitude I could probably have talked my wife into enjoying the overnight grounding. Unfortunately, I consider sailing to be an excercise in problem solving so I do not sail for the same reasons she does. I DID invite her. I apologize. David OHara Check out this cartoon. I scanned it from a local newspaper. Seem familiar?? http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v2...CreamPuff2.jpg Thanks, I (we) needed that! Frank |
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What would OJ do in a case like this ???
He would kill the wife, and the boyfriend... cut them up. Then, claim he was a victim of racial profiling ,, get a stupid black jury to let him off and then ;;; write a book telling everyone how he would have done it if he did it. ======== So, you need to ax the wife, claim that she jumped overboard, get a jury of male sailors with bothersome wives, and then write a book about how you would have pushed your wife overboard if you did push her overboard. ======================== Really quite simple. ================================= wrote in message ups.com... These days I don't normally sail with my wife cuz she drives me nuts when she does. Asks too dang many questions I have answered many times before and I long ago lost my patience for teaching her and I figger she outa just figure it out for herself, if she is really interested. With her around I cant relax and concentrate on sailing. BUT, I decided that we ought to spend more time together so I convinced her to go out for an hour or so..........big mistake. I was a nice chilly day here in N. Fl with the wind outa the north, unusual but nice. We had our 10 yr old daughter aboard and I motored out and turned to go south out the ½ mile long channel. Put up the jib cranked the diesel up all the way to blow out the carbon and got out in a hurry. Put up the main and went off on a course of 140 with engine turning over the charge the batteries. After about 15 minutes, the engine slowly died. No problem, it'll probably crank when we need it and even if it doesn't, we can always tack down the channel, I've done it before (except not on a falling tide......). After some easy sailing in nearly 18 kts with reefed main , decided to go in as it was getting chilly. Engine wouldn't start. Couldn't get any course N of 270 going west toward the channel marker tripod, CRAP, turned to NE and went a long way into the shallows till the tripod was 240 from us and then turned back to it. Wind seemed to be out of 340 so I figgered we'd have just a little trouble but not too much going down the N-S channel. Went past the channel entrance tripod tower going west and then turned back toward it. Was really surprised at how little northing we could get and only ended up about 150' north of the tripod when I had to tack back west so I wouldn't go too far into the shallows. My wife was running the Jib and I was steering and she somehow didn't get the jib to tack so we had to jibe, no problem except we lost some ground. At the other side, tacked again and went back east. Tacking on the east side needed really good control of the jib and she just couldn't get the hang of it and we had to jibe again but I managed to make up for it in gusts making more northing. On the next tack she missed again so we traded places. Unfortunately, she just couldn't get the hang of it and I kept finding her with the tiller hard over for some reason so I took over steering again. On the next tack, she missed again and I actually had to give up about 100' to avoid hitting a marker. By this time I was ****ed and demanded that she just sit back and allow me to get us in. She keeps talking about getting help on the radio but I kept telling her we didn't need any help cuz we were not in any trouble and she keeps goin on about it making me nutso. Finally, I get into the groove, controlling the tacks and all and making real progress. On one tack, the wind picks up and I manage to get a good angle north, so much so that I decide to go a little more past the side of the channel than usual, after all, even if we go aground, the N wind will push us off............ Well, I go aground, no problem I thought, I turn the tiller to make us jibe and let out all the RF jib to push her head around and SHOCK, she doesn't move. DANG, it didn't feel as if we went hard aground but the wind wouldn't push us off no matter what. Suddenly wife is demanding I call for help. I say "Hell NO" we are not in trouble and I'm getting us off. OK, I try to start the engine again, a few sputters but then nothing. CRAP, she demands that we "Call somebody" so I ask, "Call ****ing who" and she says "The Marine Patrol or the Coast Guard" to which I reply that we are in NO danger at all and in fact are only ½ mile from shore in water so shallow I can walk to shore if necessary. I commence to trying to rock us off, no luck. She wants me to call somebody we know on shore but I tell her I don't have their phone numbers and I'd prefer to wait for the tide. She says, "How will we get in then, the same thing will happen". I tell her that by tomorrow the wind will be outa the south and we can then sail most of the way in. "TOMORROW, It is COLD, WE HAVE ONLY ONE BLANKET and no food and I have to get to work in the morning and Katie has o go to school and...." Katie replies "I want to stay, I want to stay". I say, "Dammit, we have three parkas, a blanket, several sheets and even some apples and snack stuff, no problem". "We need to get home" she says. "AAAAAAUGH, OK, I'll try the radio", so I try to call the local coast guard auxiliary that I know will not respond, "See, no answer". This doesn't stop her, she just ****ed off and threatens to use her cell phone to get our 16 yr old son at home to call for help. So, I get browbeaten into calling TowBoat US and get them ok. They tell us what it'll cost/hr and I tell em we'll call back if we really need help. Then, we see the only other boat on the water go by ¼ mile away, it is SeaTow so she convinces me to call them. Thank You God, they are responding to a genuine call for help and cannot get to us. I go below and try to bleed the engine, an easy thing to do if she would get off my back about my tools being all over the cabin. I have an electric fuel pump because it makes bleeding the engine a breeze but I get NO fuel out the bleed ports, "HUH"? I think back to years ago when the electric pump diaphragm had gone bad at the dock, no amount of pumping would get fuel to the fuel filter, CRAP, its happened again, bad timing too. I go forward to try to push off with the very very long extendable boat hook, nothing at all, we are hard aground. SO, I decide to make the best of it and get out my Delta anchor and manage to throw it way out so don't go too far if we float off. Suddenly "GROAN", I see SeaTow coming down the channel toward us, they managed to get the other boat out of distress. If I tell them to leave I'll never hear the end of it so I humbly tie their tow rope to our cleat and they pull us into the channel bumping the bottom a lot on the way, clearly the tide has really gone out. They tow us to the dock and I go to pay. By this time I was seriously happy to be off the boat with my wife so even the astonishing cost of $480 didn't faze me much. It was $10/ft for the ungrounding (28' sailboat) and then $165 minimum and a couple other fees. 20 YEARS OF SAILING AND I HAVE NEVER NEEDED TO BE TOWED IN. Shame, shame, shame. I've been hard aground before with my friends, no problem, just wait for the tide and party till then. If I was with them or myself and able to be relaxed about my tools being all over I'd have just rigged up a gravity feed for the engine but NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO, I had to listen to so much crap I finally gave in to such debasement. I love my wife but will not sail with her again. Yes, I'd still be aground with my 10 yr old daughter with me but we'd have fun fishing and I'd get off in the morn. |
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On Mon, 20 Nov 2006 14:23:25 GMT, "Roger Long"
wrote: If this doesn't work, put a block on the anchor line and run it up the mast with a halyard. Winching the anchor line will then heel the boat powerfully, reducing the draft as you drag the boat off. Snatch block on the anchor line, taken up with a halyard. Just when you think you've seen all of the clever tricks on a sailboat, along comes another one. Good one Roger. |
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