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A Usenet persona calling itself KMAN wrote:
in article , Scott Weiser at wrote on 4/13/05 7:31 PM: A Usenet persona calling itself KMAN wrote: It's not mentoring when neither party is willing or makes the choice. You wrongly presume that neither party is willing You didn't speak of any process whereby the parties in question have a say in this "mentoring." Why should they? They are students. They are given assignments and they are expected to complete them. A person with a disability is not an object. They are a human being, not an "assignment." They are human beings, and they are students. Students are given assignments. Assignments may include mentoring other students. and you incorrectly presume that one has to "make the choice" to be a mentor. No such restriction is found in the definition of the word. I think most people's understanding of a mentorship relationship is that the two people have chosen to be in the relationship. Certainly such relationships are possible, but it is not a requirement. I disagree, but this is getting into semantics. Whatever you wish to call it, I am in total disagreement with a forced relationship of this nature. It's about the worst thing you could do for all concerned. Ridiculous! People are in "forced relationships" throughout their lives. They need to learn as children how to deal with such relationships through experience. The non-disabled student is not trained in supporting the individual with a disability in an appropriate helper role and will serve the purpose of teaching the individual with a disability that they are not competent and need to be assigned a non-disabled person to make their decisions for them. Balderdash. The whole point is to TEACH the mentor how to mentor while also teaching the disabled student how to be mentored. Ah, basically teaching the non-disabled student to boss people with disabilities, and teaching people with disabilities to be bossed. Mentoring is not "bossing." It's "tutoring or coaching." Being forced to tutor or coach someone who has not asked for your tutoring or coaching is a boss/being bossed relationship. Not really. Absolutely the worst possible suggestion, unless your goal is to make people with disabilities even more vulnerable than they are. The goal is to teach both students. No compulsory school student has freely "chosen" to be in a mentor relationship with a teacher. They are required to submit to education, and their teachers "mentor" them. It's not demeaning or harmful for disabled student to be subjected to teaching, whomever the teacher may be. It is both demeaning and harmful to all concerned in the scenario you propose. The forced-to-be-teacher does not have the maturity or training to take on that role, and the forced-to-be-student is being asked to sort through an impossibly confusing relationship whereby they are being bossed by what should be a peer, not a superior. That's why it's called "education." Everybody learns something. Mentoring has nothing to do with "making their decisions for them," it is simply defined as "tutoring or coaching." Actually, even using standard dictionary definitions, the key to a mentoring relationship is trust. While trust might possibly emerge from an imposed relationship, it seems to me it is much more likely to come from a relationship where the two people actually choose to be together. That's happenstantial trust. No, that's about mutuality. Trust is also built between people forced together through the interactions they experience. That's also a good way to build hatred. That it may be does not mean that it is, or will always be. Most of the time it works out okay, and children need to learn early how to get along with others, even those they don't like. Maybe so, but the point is that neither the two-year-old nor the disabled child nor the older child assigned to mentor him are in charge of things They should be. They are CHILDREN. They don't get to be in charge of things until they are grown up. But you think children who are not disabled should be in charge of children who are disabled. Mentoring is not being "in charge of." -- Regards, Scott Weiser "I love the Internet, I no longer have to depend on friends, family and co-workers, I can annoy people WORLDWIDE!" TM © 2005 Scott Weiser |
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in article , Scott Weiser at
wrote on 4/15/05 12:01 AM: A Usenet persona calling itself KMAN wrote: in article , Scott Weiser at wrote on 4/13/05 7:31 PM: A Usenet persona calling itself KMAN wrote: It's not mentoring when neither party is willing or makes the choice. You wrongly presume that neither party is willing You didn't speak of any process whereby the parties in question have a say in this "mentoring." Why should they? They are students. They are given assignments and they are expected to complete them. A person with a disability is not an object. They are a human being, not an "assignment." They are human beings, and they are students. Students are given assignments. Assignments may include mentoring other students. This "mentoring" as you have described it is nothing but the objectification of the person with a disability as lesser human. and you incorrectly presume that one has to "make the choice" to be a mentor. No such restriction is found in the definition of the word. I think most people's understanding of a mentorship relationship is that the two people have chosen to be in the relationship. Certainly such relationships are possible, but it is not a requirement. I disagree, but this is getting into semantics. Whatever you wish to call it, I am in total disagreement with a forced relationship of this nature. It's about the worst thing you could do for all concerned. Ridiculous! People are in "forced relationships" throughout their lives. They need to learn as children how to deal with such relationships through experience. Ridiculous! A person with a disability gains nothing positive from being taught that they are lesser human beings and the non-disabled person gains nothing positive from learning that they should assume power and control over people with disabilities. Just because there are negative forced relationships in the world it makes no sense to deliberately subject people to experience them. With your way of thinking, it would make sense to sexually assault children so they will be able to deal with it. Yes, your thinking is that scary. The non-disabled student is not trained in supporting the individual with a disability in an appropriate helper role and will serve the purpose of teaching the individual with a disability that they are not competent and need to be assigned a non-disabled person to make their decisions for them. Balderdash. The whole point is to TEACH the mentor how to mentor while also teaching the disabled student how to be mentored. Ah, basically teaching the non-disabled student to boss people with disabilities, and teaching people with disabilities to be bossed. Mentoring is not "bossing." It's "tutoring or coaching." Being forced to tutor or coach someone who has not asked for your tutoring or coaching is a boss/being bossed relationship. Not really. Absolutely the worst possible suggestion, unless your goal is to make people with disabilities even more vulnerable than they are. The goal is to teach both students. No compulsory school student has freely "chosen" to be in a mentor relationship with a teacher. They are required to submit to education, and their teachers "mentor" them. It's not demeaning or harmful for disabled student to be subjected to teaching, whomever the teacher may be. It is both demeaning and harmful to all concerned in the scenario you propose. The forced-to-be-teacher does not have the maturity or training to take on that role, and the forced-to-be-student is being asked to sort through an impossibly confusing relationship whereby they are being bossed by what should be a peer, not a superior. That's why it's called "education." Everybody learns something. Why not have them learning more useful and positive things than how to have a miserable life as victims or abusers? Mentoring has nothing to do with "making their decisions for them," it is simply defined as "tutoring or coaching." Actually, even using standard dictionary definitions, the key to a mentoring relationship is trust. While trust might possibly emerge from an imposed relationship, it seems to me it is much more likely to come from a relationship where the two people actually choose to be together. That's happenstantial trust. No, that's about mutuality. Trust is also built between people forced together through the interactions they experience. That's also a good way to build hatred. That it may be does not mean that it is, or will always be. Most of the time it works out okay, and children need to learn early how to get along with others, even those they don't like. They could learn to respect each other, rather than be forced into a relationship that neither is equipped to handle. Maybe so, but the point is that neither the two-year-old nor the disabled child nor the older child assigned to mentor him are in charge of things They should be. They are CHILDREN. They don't get to be in charge of things until they are grown up. But you think children who are not disabled should be in charge of children who are disabled. Mentoring is not being "in charge of." Is the person with a disability freely inviting the individual to be their mentor, and is the person being inviting freely accepting the invitation? If not, your program is nothing more than assigning a non-disabled boss to a person with a disability. |
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A Usenet persona calling itself KMAN wrote:
A person with a disability is not an object. They are a human being, not an "assignment." They are human beings, and they are students. Students are given assignments. Assignments may include mentoring other students. This "mentoring" as you have described it is nothing but the objectification of the person with a disability as lesser human. No more so than any form of didacticism for any other student. No more so than by creating a "specialized" curriculum for a disabled student, and in fact less so. Students are, by definition, ignorant of the things they are to be taught. Assigning studies is a perfectly ordinary part of every educational scheme, and it's not "objectifying" anyone to do so, irrespective of their abilities. When any student needs specialized teaching or mentoring, providing it is not "objectifying" them or categorizing them as a "lesser human," it's simply recognizing that students may learn differently and may require some additional instruction to help them succeed. No "objectification" is present. and you incorrectly presume that one has to "make the choice" to be a mentor. No such restriction is found in the definition of the word. I think most people's understanding of a mentorship relationship is that the two people have chosen to be in the relationship. Certainly such relationships are possible, but it is not a requirement. I disagree, but this is getting into semantics. Whatever you wish to call it, I am in total disagreement with a forced relationship of this nature. It's about the worst thing you could do for all concerned. Ridiculous! People are in "forced relationships" throughout their lives. They need to learn as children how to deal with such relationships through experience. Ridiculous! A person with a disability gains nothing positive from being taught that they are lesser human beings and the non-disabled person gains nothing positive from learning that they should assume power and control over people with disabilities. Sophistry. Providing mentoring is not, as you insist, an evil plot to "objectify" and "dehumanize" the student, nor is it a method of creating juvenile despots with megalomaniacal tendencies. Just because there are negative forced relationships in the world it makes no sense to deliberately subject people to experience them. It makes perfect sense. It's absolutely necessary to *every* child's proper development to expose them to situations and relationships in which they have to learn to compromise and seek consensus with others. That's one of the primary things that group schooling is for; to expose children to other children in venues that force them to learn to get along with others. Students who receive exclusively private tutoring, with the absence of peers with whom they can learn to form relationships, are ill-equipped to survive in the real world. Just ask any child star. With your way of thinking, it would make sense to sexually assault children so they will be able to deal with it. Yes, your thinking is that scary. Specious, amphigorical nonsense. Learning to relate to and get along with ones peers is entirely different from engaging in sexual abuse. By even suggesting this as an appropriate analogy you destroy your credibility. They are CHILDREN. They don't get to be in charge of things until they are grown up. But you think children who are not disabled should be in charge of children who are disabled. Mentoring is not being "in charge of." Is the person with a disability freely inviting the individual to be their mentor, and is the person being inviting freely accepting the invitation? If not, your program is nothing more than assigning a non-disabled boss to a person with a disability. Doesn't matter. They are students. They must complete the assignments given. As for "assigning a boss" to a disabled person, every person who enters the workforce gets assigned a "boss," and every person needs to learn how to be "bossed" in one way or another. That's life. Get used to it. -- Regards, Scott Weiser "I love the Internet, I no longer have to depend on friends, family and co-workers, I can annoy people WORLDWIDE!" TM © 2005 Scott Weiser |
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![]() "Scott Weiser" wrote in message ... A Usenet persona calling itself KMAN wrote: A person with a disability is not an object. They are a human being, not an "assignment." They are human beings, and they are students. Students are given assignments. Assignments may include mentoring other students. This "mentoring" as you have described it is nothing but the objectification of the person with a disability as lesser human. No more so than any form of didacticism for any other student. It is more in that you have just created two classes of students, an added (negative and destructive) layer of objectification. No more so than by creating a "specialized" curriculum for a disabled student An appropriate curriculum, not specialized. and in fact less so. Students are, by definition, ignorant of the things they are to be taught. Assigning studies is a perfectly ordinary part of every educational scheme, and it's not "objectifying" anyone to do so, irrespective of their abilities. Sure it is! They aren't a "study" they are human beings! When any student needs specialized teaching or mentoring, providing it is not "objectifying" them or categorizing them as a "lesser human," it's simply recognizing that students may learn differently and may require some additional instruction to help them succeed. No "objectification" is present. Forcing students with vastly different needs to be in the same class where the students who are not getting an appropriate curriculum are assigned non-disabled bosses is about nothing more than objectification and the development of future victims and abusers. and you incorrectly presume that one has to "make the choice" to be a mentor. No such restriction is found in the definition of the word. I think most people's understanding of a mentorship relationship is that the two people have chosen to be in the relationship. Certainly such relationships are possible, but it is not a requirement. I disagree, but this is getting into semantics. Whatever you wish to call it, I am in total disagreement with a forced relationship of this nature. It's about the worst thing you could do for all concerned. Ridiculous! People are in "forced relationships" throughout their lives. They need to learn as children how to deal with such relationships through experience. Ridiculous! A person with a disability gains nothing positive from being taught that they are lesser human beings and the non-disabled person gains nothing positive from learning that they should assume power and control over people with disabilities. Sophistry. Providing mentoring is not, as you insist, an evil plot to "objectify" and "dehumanize" the student, nor is it a method of creating juvenile despots with megalomaniacal tendencies. You may truly believe that your proposal would accomplish otherwise, but sadly, that's exactly what such relationships produce. Just because there are negative forced relationships in the world it makes no sense to deliberately subject people to experience them. It makes perfect sense. It's absolutely necessary to *every* child's proper development to expose them to situations and relationships in which they have to learn to compromise and seek consensus with others. Mhm. That's one of the primary things that group schooling is for; to expose children to other children in venues that force them to learn to get along with others. OK. Students who receive exclusively private tutoring, with the absence of peers with whom they can learn to form relationships, are ill-equipped to survive in the real world. Just ask any child star. None of which has anything to do with your scheme. With your way of thinking, it would make sense to sexually assault children so they will be able to deal with it. Yes, your thinking is that scary. Specious, amphigorical nonsense. Learning to relate to and get along with ones peers is entirely different from engaging in sexual abuse. What you are proposing will result in production of victims and abusers much more so than learning to get along. By even suggesting this as an appropriate analogy you destroy your credibility. Only becuase you have no idea how foolish your idea truly is. They are CHILDREN. They don't get to be in charge of things until they are grown up. But you think children who are not disabled should be in charge of children who are disabled. Mentoring is not being "in charge of." Is the person with a disability freely inviting the individual to be their mentor, and is the person being inviting freely accepting the invitation? If not, your program is nothing more than assigning a non-disabled boss to a person with a disability. Doesn't matter. It does matter. This is why you need to think more about abusers and the abused. They are students. They must complete the assignments given. Thus when exerting this power care is required to ensure why the assignment is being given and if the results are likely to meet with the goals. As for "assigning a boss" to a disabled person, every person who enters the workforce gets assigned a "boss," and every person needs to learn how to be "bossed" in one way or another. That's life. Get used to it. Why should people with disabilities "get used to" being bossed by non-disabled people?!? My goodness you are such a fool. This is EXACTLY why people with disabilities are so vulnerable to sexual assault and other forms of abuse. Fools like you actually want them to learn to be victims, and to teach non-disabled people to be victimizers. Amazingly stupid. |
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A Usenet persona calling itself KMAN wrote:
As for "assigning a boss" to a disabled person, every person who enters the workforce gets assigned a "boss," and every person needs to learn how to be "bossed" in one way or another. That's life. Get used to it. Why should people with disabilities "get used to" being bossed by non-disabled people?!? It's not just "disabled people," it's *everyone.* All children will ultimately grow up and become members of the workforce, and they will be "bossed" by any number of people in their lives. They need to learn how to be a good subordinate FIRST. The military knows this, which is why even General officers start out as boot recruits, where they learn to be "bossed." It has absolutely nothing whatever to do with one's disability status. My goodness you are such a fool. This is EXACTLY why people with disabilities are so vulnerable to sexual assault and other forms of abuse. Fools like you actually want them to learn to be victims, and to teach non-disabled people to be victimizers. Amazingly stupid. You certainly are if you think that teaching children to be subordinate to authority is a bad thing. -- Regards, Scott Weiser "I love the Internet, I no longer have to depend on friends, family and co-workers, I can annoy people WORLDWIDE!" TM © 2005 Scott Weiser |
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A Usenet persona calling itself KMAN wrote:
in article , Scott Weiser at wrote on 4/15/05 10:22 PM: A Usenet persona calling itself KMAN wrote: As for "assigning a boss" to a disabled person, every person who enters the workforce gets assigned a "boss," and every person needs to learn how to be "bossed" in one way or another. That's life. Get used to it. Why should people with disabilities "get used to" being bossed by non-disabled people?!? It's not just "disabled people," it's *everyone.* All children will ultimately grow up and become members of the workforce, and they will be "bossed" by any number of people in their lives. They need to learn how to be a good subordinate FIRST. The military knows this, which is why even General officers start out as boot recruits, where they learn to be "bossed." It has absolutely nothing whatever to do with one's disability status. I don't hear you assigning any people with disabilities to boss their non-disabled peers. So, obviously, since your little system features non-disabled people bossing disabled people, the main outcome will be as I stated: people with disabilities will get used to being bossed by non-disabled people, and non-disabled people will get used to bossing people with disabilities. Don't be silly, that's what mentoring programs are *about.* I never suggested NOT mentoring non disabled students. In fact I repeatedly told you that ANY student who was having difficulty in a specific academic area needs to be mentored. It so happens that we are specifically discussing the disabled, but that in no way suggests that they are the only students who need mentors. But before you come up with some scheme to give the people with disabilties equal bossing time, why the heck do these kids need to be bossing each other at all...they already have teachers, principals, parents, and other authority figures to boss them. You really seem to have some sort of authority-figure aversion. Why not just eliminate the need for this misguided and dangerous scheme by ensuring that students have an appropriate curriculum? Mentoring is an appropriate curriculum for a student who is having difficulty. My goodness you are such a fool. This is EXACTLY why people with disabilities are so vulnerable to sexual assault and other forms of abuse. Fools like you actually want them to learn to be victims, and to teach non-disabled people to be victimizers. Amazingly stupid. You certainly are if you think that teaching children to be subordinate to authority is a bad thing. Teaching people with disabilities to be a subordinate class of lesser humans who are to yield control of their own lives to a higher class of non-disabled people is most definitely and unquestionably a very bad thing and leads to horrifying rates of sexual assault and other forms of abuse. Specious, unsubstantiated, hysterical, untrue claptrap and nonsense. Scott, you had what you no doubt thought to be an interesting idea but it is totally without merit, Sez you. It's not my idea, it's an idea held by many education professionals, none of whom see the bogey-man you're in a panic about. and would lead to a vulnerable group of people being further victimized, and the school being nothing but a training ground for victims and abusers. Your anti-paranoia medication is wearing off. -- Regards, Scott Weiser "I love the Internet, I no longer have to depend on friends, family and co-workers, I can annoy people WORLDWIDE!" TM © 2005 Scott Weiser |
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Hi folks! Just thought I'd pop in and see how you are getting on.
I see that Sadder-butt Weiser is still spouting arrant nonsense, such as: ...The military knows this, which is why even General officers start out as boot recruits, where they learn to be "bossed."... In fact, only a small percentage of the officer corps is drawn from enlisted recruits, and only a *tiny* percentage of general officers come up from the ranks. But when did Scott ever let truth and accuracy get in the way of what looks (to him) like a good debating point? Hang in there Scottie; keep on spittin' against the wind until you finally bring it to a stop! I'll look in again next month to see if yer still beating the same dead horses. -Richard, His Kanubic Travesty -- ================================================== ==================== Richard Hopley Winston-Salem, NC, USA rhopley[at]earthlink[dot]net Nothing really matters except Boats, Sex, and Rock'n'Roll rhopley[at]wfubmc[dot]edu OK, OK; computer programming for scientific research also matters ================================================== ==================== |
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