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A Usenet persona calling itself KMAN wrote:
You recommned a SMACK for ADHD students. No, I recommend appropriate corporal punishment for students who haven't been taught by their parents to be quiet, respectful and obedient to authority and who haven't learned to concentrate. LOL! How brilliant! Take kids who have trouble at home and beat them at school! I didn't say "beat them." But as to discipline, somebody's got to do it, or the kids grow up to be criminals. Even young children can distinguish between unprovoked physical abuse and just punishment for wrongdoing. That'll learn 'em to concentrate! Most of the time, yes. And also that violence is acceptable, Violence is acceptable, in proper context. The unlawful violence against me in junior high school stopped when I stood up to a bully, took my lumps, and beat the crap out of him in self-defense after he wantonly attacked me without warning or provocation. After that fight, I never had another problem with any of my peers trying to bully me. But, it also taught me that it's a really good idea to do everything possible to avoid a fight, because even winning a fight *hurts.* I haven't been in a *single* fistfight since then, including during my tenure as a police officer, where I was always able to verbally convince people that fighting with me would be a very bad idea because one way or another, the law was going to win. More than 40 years of successful non-violence directly resulted from one single incidence of the lawful and appropriate use of physical force in self-defense. That's a lesson that *all* children ought to learn. When I worked as an EMT in a hospital ER, the people we saw most often from bar fights were the *winners.* They usually broke bones in the hand as a result of the punch that ended the fight, and ended up in a cast. Consider appropriate corporal punishment, both at home and in schools, as prophylactic self-defense by society against the inevitable violence perpetrated by undisciplined children who grow up into undisciplined adults. after all, school is a good and fine social institution, and they use violence, so it's OK for me too! Context is everything. Moreover, violence is an inherent part of human nature. Learning to control one's behavior because the painful consequences of not doing so is an important lesson to learn, because no matter who you are, there's always somebody bigger, badder and more violent out there who can hurt you if you **** them off. Children who don't understand that they must learn to control their behavior or they may suffer *even worse* violence are in grave danger. Smacking a child's hand or giving them a swat on the bottom to enforce obedience is not, contrary to liberal permissive dogma, going to turn them into psychopathic killers. Not doing so, however, stands a very good chance of turning them into uncontrollable, wild, selfish and violent adults who don't recognize any limitations on their behavior. That fact is perfectly clear. One needs only look at the decline of civility and the burgeoning juvenile crime rates to see this. I deny that just because a student is disruptive and unwilling to concentrate or obey, that the student is *unable* to concentrate or obey due to some phony, concocted "diagnosis" that is little more than a marketing tool for Ritalin. I agree with you on this point. Drugs are being unbelievably overprescribed. By SMACKING the kids is not the answer. Obviously. Why is it obvious to you? How do you deny thousands of years of corporal discipline that resulted in generation after generation of rational, peaceful and well-behaved adults? Overcoming "ADHD" is something you *learn* to do, not something you can be medicated into. Sometimes children need to be caused to focus, and corporal punishment, in appropriate measure, can be an effective tool for obtaining obedience and stimulating focus. Ridiculous. That's the recipe for a volcano that will erupt (internally, externally, or both). It just teaches the kid that when you have a problem, you lash out at it. Balderdash. The most violent teens on the planet are those who have *never* been disciplined. Teaching self-control is a necessary part of any child's upbringing, and teaching a child that authority has teeth, and that defiance may have painful consequences is absolutely necessary if the child is to grow up into a responsible adult. Heck, even the teacher hits me, what's wrong with me hitting a kid that I don't like? The answer is quite simple: You are not a teacher, and you do not have any authority to administer corporal punishment. Even small children are capable of distinguishing between punishment administered for wrongful behavior and wanton assault. Most of the time, "ADHD" is nothing more than a sugar high caused by poor nutrition and breakfast cereal combined with lax, permissive parenting that spills over into the classroom. There are a proportion of kids diagnosed ADHD who experience a life-changing experience with medication. I'd say *all* of them do. The question is whether or not the changes are positive or negative. The vast, vast majority of the time, the changes are demonstrably negative and extremely harmful to the child's future. The dosage needs to be monitored closely with the intent of reducing it as soon as possible, and the goal of eliminating it. In 90% of the cases, the dosage should be zero. The medication should be combined with strategies for the teacher, parents, and child. The strategies should be tried first before medication is even a consideration. Yup. And corporal punishment is one of the prime strategies that should be applied LONG before medication is even considered. That said, I agree with much of what you say (regarding misdiagnosis and slapping of labels on kids so they can be dealt with through medications) but I think your focus on the need for the child to have a smack is way off. They need people around them who can set boundaries and help establish routines and structure that are appropriate. And how, exactly, do you set "boundaries" with an out-of-control child who refuses to acknowledge parental (or teacher) authority, no matter what punishments short of corporal punishment are applied? And then there's the issue of how you teach a child to stay away from danger. Telling a two year old that something is "hot" is only marginally useful until they understand what "hot" means. In my home, we have a wood stove insert to heat the house. There are no barriers, no guard rails, nothing to keep a child from touching the hot stove. And yet not one of the children has ever suffered a serious burn, because they learn very quickly not to touch (or even get near) the stove when it's lit. Has there been the occasional burned finger? Yes. But not more than once per child. Is allowing a child to burn his finger so he understands the concept of "hot" violent? To many parents, probably so, but to us, children have to learn to live in the real world, which is filled with real perils, which requires that they be absolutely and reliably obedient to parental commands. Unless we are willing to let them experiment with dangers that can severely injure or kill them, we have to find ways to teach them the painful consequences of carelessness or disobedience by using techniques that demonstrate the physical pain involved in doing such things while protecting them from any real harm. Wrapping children in bunting so as to keep them from any pain is a disservice to them. Corporal punishment is the way that rational adults teach the very real consequences of misbehavior in ways that are uncomfortable and unpleasant, but harmless. Thus, when teaching the two year old not to run out in the street, a bare-butt spanking that makes the consequences of disobedience much more real, immediate and painful than the abstract concept of "you might get hit by a car" is perfectly justifiable, reasonable, rational and effective. Likewise, smacking the back of the hand of a disruptive student who has refused polite requests to settle down to work is perfectly reasonable because it is harmless, but it makes the consequences of disobedience more unpleasant than those of obedience. When I was about 4, my dad caught me putting paperclips in the wall sockets. I didn't respond to lectures on the subject, so he bought a crank-type telephone generator and gave me a couple of very unpleasant but harmless shocks. Then he told me what was in the telephone box was "little electricity," and that what was in the wall socket was "big electricity." I got the message instantly, and never ventured near the wall sockets with a paperclip again. It was a valuable and well-crafted lesson that made it absolutely certain I wouldn't be in danger of death. But, if a parent today did the same thing, he would undoubtedly be arrested for "child abuse" merely because he subjected his child to some minor pain out of concern for his life. So, instead of children who understand the dangers of AC line voltage and current, we have plastic plugs which any three year old can remove and a generation of kids at risk for electrocution. Sorry, but life is full of danger and pain, and there's nothing wrong with instilling discipline and obedience through reasonable and appropriate corporal punishment in order to prevent greater, potentially fatal harm at a later time. Never has been, never will be, so long as it's done with the proper motives and in the proper proportion. And please don't bother trying to forward the specious argument that any corporal punishment is, or inevitably leads to, genuine physical abuse, because it's not true. For example, I don't run around the house with a cattle-prod zapping the two year old every time he disobeys just because my father used an electrical shock to reinforce a vital safety lesson. -- Regards, Scott Weiser "I love the Internet, I no longer have to depend on friends, family and co-workers, I can annoy people WORLDWIDE!" TM © 2005 Scott Weiser |
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