I'm not going to drag the scenario of what we went through on this public
forum, Max, but suffice it to say, the "sister protector" as you called her
was after one thing...money...and if you sit through Care Conferences that
involve family members, that is what motivates most people in their
decisions about nursing homes, health care, etc. Mom's money is now being
used to take care of her. We do not care if there is nothing left over when
she goes. Unfortunately, that was not the case on the other side. the
other thing is that she lives in Minnesota, removed from the situation. And
like I said, we see Mom every day. We go in at mealtime and feed her. I do
some of her personal care. So, in retrospect, your judgment of me is about
par with mine of you...and that's the last of this discussion.

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"katysails" wrote in message

I'm not going to drag the scenario of what we went through on this public
forum, Max, but suffice it to say, the "sister protector" as you called
her
was after one thing...money...and if you sit through Care Conferences that
involve family members, that is what motivates most people in their
decisions about nursing homes, health care, etc. Mom's money is now being
used to take care of her. We do not care if there is nothing left over
when
she goes. Unfortunately, that was not the case on the other side. the
other thing is that she lives in Minnesota, removed from the situation.
And
like I said, we see Mom every day. We go in at mealtime and feed her. I
do
some of her personal care. So, in retrospect, your judgment of me is
about
par with mine of you...and that's the last of this discussion.

Yes, sadly I'm aware that money often plays a part in such situations.
We're facing this now with Janie's mother (Alzheimer's, in a facility) and
her father (living independently). We, like you, don't give a rodent's
posterior if he spends all his money caring for her and himself. To the
contrary, we believe, as good conservatives do, that the gummint (read: us
taxpayers) should not have to bear that burden. But my in-laws see things
differently, and would love to cash in someday. Such was not the case in
Dad's situation. Neither my brother nor I wanted his money. So that was
not an issue.

Nuf said.

Max

I concur Max..... I already have my parent's "Money"... I'm spending it on
them!
I carry my own bills.... I don't need hand-outs or charity.

CM

"Maxprop" wrote in message
link.net...
|
| "katysails" wrote in message
|
| I'm not going to drag the scenario of what we went through on this
public
| forum, Max, but suffice it to say, the "sister protector" as you called
| her
| was after one thing...money...and if you sit through Care Conferences
that
| involve family members, that is what motivates most people in their
| decisions about nursing homes, health care, etc. Mom's money is now
being
| used to take care of her. We do not care if there is nothing left over
| when
| she goes. Unfortunately, that was not the case on the other side. the
| other thing is that she lives in Minnesota, removed from the situation.
| And
| like I said, we see Mom every day. We go in at mealtime and feed her.
I
| do
| some of her personal care. So, in retrospect, your judgment of me is
| about
| par with mine of you...and that's the last of this discussion.
|
| Yes, sadly I'm aware that money often plays a part in such situations.
| We're facing this now with Janie's mother (Alzheimer's, in a facility) and
| her father (living independently). We, like you, don't give a rodent's
| posterior if he spends all his money caring for her and himself. To the
| contrary, we believe, as good conservatives do, that the gummint (read:
us
| taxpayers) should not have to bear that burden. But my in-laws see
things
| differently, and would love to cash in someday. Such was not the case in
| Dad's situation. Neither my brother nor I wanted his money. So that was
| not an issue.
|
| Nuf said.
|
| Max
|
|

"Capt. Mooron" wrote in message

I concur Max..... I already have my parent's "Money"... I'm spending it
on
them!
I carry my own bills.... I don't need hand-outs or charity.

A lawyer friend, who litigates estate disputes, once commented that the
ugliest side of human nature is familial greed. He sees it daily, and is
repulsed by it. That's probably why he went into his line of work--to put
up a roadblock in the paths of those who'd do anything to get their hands on
their so-called inheritances, including killing their parents (three cases
he's dealt with).

Max

I cannot for the life of me understand such thinking..... good grief!

It's proof positive that most people have way more than they need and don't
have a clue what they want!

CM



"Maxprop" wrote in message
| A lawyer friend, who litigates estate disputes, once commented that the
| ugliest side of human nature is familial greed. He sees it daily, and is
| repulsed by it. That's probably why he went into his line of work--to put
| up a roadblock in the paths of those who'd do anything to get their hands
on
| their so-called inheritances, including killing their parents (three cases
| he's dealt with).
|
| Max
|
|