"katysails" wrote in message

This is most unfair. You've obviously never faced caring for an ailing
parent alone, while trying to maintain a family and a career
simultaneously.

Yeah...well you don't know anything about the last three years then....

So explain. Here's your opportunity. But to simply brand a man an
"asshole" because he is struggling to deal with an aging parent while
maintaining a life of his own would indicate a complete lack of
understanding on your part. This is something almost every one of us will
ultimately deal with. Some of us will be lucky enough to have other family
members to share the burden. But some will have to deal with it alone, and
hope and pray their decisions are the right ones. And they will bear the
burden of guilt alone as well.

I could have dumped my father into a nursing home at the first sign of
trouble and, believe it or not, everyone would have been hunky dory with
that. But I couldn't do that to Dad. So I was the whipping boy for all the
local busy bodies and my relatives living too far away to be anything but an
irritation to the process.

To say "Yeah . . well you don't know anything about the last three years
then . . ." is unsatisfactory. Unless you've walked in my shoes, or those
of the woman's son, you have no right to judge.

Max