"Vic Smith" wrote in message
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Yep, you had a communication failure. Lots of women don't like liens
on their home. Men too, and I'm one of them. Age has a lot to do
with it too. What younger people call leverage older people call just
plain debt. A lienless home is a real ace in the hole, but it's hard
to play it except on a real good hand. For many that hand can only be
replacing or improving the house.


Women are nesters and there is often no rhyme or reason for their attachment
to a house.
I've had many discussions with Mrs. E. regarding the 8000 square foot house
we own but only two of us live in. It's not like we raised all the kids
here or anything .... we bought it after they had all left the nest because
it was ideally setup for her (then) new interest in having horses. Now, we
don't even have the horses here ... they are boarded at a nearby training
stable. The horse barn, which I have all kinds of ideas for converting for
other uses, is off limits and remains spotlessly clean, ready to house the
horses again if they ever return. (which, if I have my way, they won't).

There are bedrooms and bathrooms in this house that have never been used,
for cripes sake. No level of logic or rational thinking will permit any
consideration on her part to selling it and moving into a more sensible
house for two. Oh, well. I tell people it's like living in an empty
Sheridan.

Eisboch

On Sat, 12 May 2007 08:43:47 -0400, "RCE" wrote:


"Vic Smith" wrote in message
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There are bedrooms and bathrooms in this house that have never been used,
for cripes sake. No level of logic or rational thinking will permit any
consideration on her part to selling it and moving into a more sensible
house for two. Oh, well. I tell people it's like living in an empty
Sheridan.

She might just have too many fond memories of the stables to make the
break. Sometimes I think my wife is more attached to her gardens
around the house than to the house itself.
I know when I mention moving to Florida her main point of resistance
is losing her gardens. I've studied Florida gardening a bit, but it
looks like it's quite different than what she's accustomed to.
See if you can find a smaller house that has stables.
Even if you don't plan they will be occupied (-:

--Vic

Vic Smith wrote:
Sometimes I think my wife is more attached to her gardens
around the house than to the house itself.
I know when I mention moving to Florida her main point of resistance
is losing her gardens. I've studied Florida gardening a bit, but it
looks like it's quite different than what she's accustomed to.

--Vic


Depends on where you are in Florida. In North Florida, where we lived,
almost anything would grow, and quickly, with nightly watering. Citrus
was a gamble, though, because we did get winter freezes. But it was easy
to grow a wide variety of familiar and unfamiliar flora, and bushes.

On Sat, 12 May 2007 09:40:05 -0400, HK wrote:

Vic Smith wrote:
Sometimes I think my wife is more attached to her gardens
around the house than to the house itself.
I know when I mention moving to Florida her main point of resistance
is losing her gardens. I've studied Florida gardening a bit, but it
looks like it's quite different than what she's accustomed to.

--Vic


Depends on where you are in Florida. In North Florida, where we lived,
almost anything would grow, and quickly, with nightly watering. Citrus
was a gamble, though, because we did get winter freezes. But it was easy
to grow a wide variety of familiar and unfamiliar flora, and bushes.


Good point. Most of what I looked at was "tropical" Florida growing.
Above the freeze line would still suit me fine.
After discussing this thread with my wife, I've concluded the "no
going back" once you sell is the biggest issue for us. Renting this
house out and renting one down there for a year or two might be an
option. The "nest" will remain waiting if the new one doesn't work.

--Vic

Vic Smith wrote:
On Sat, 12 May 2007 09:40:05 -0400, HK wrote:

Vic Smith wrote:
Sometimes I think my wife is more attached to her gardens
around the house than to the house itself.
I know when I mention moving to Florida her main point of resistance
is losing her gardens. I've studied Florida gardening a bit, but it
looks like it's quite different than what she's accustomed to.
--Vic

Depends on where you are in Florida. In North Florida, where we lived,
almost anything would grow, and quickly, with nightly watering. Citrus
was a gamble, though, because we did get winter freezes. But it was easy
to grow a wide variety of familiar and unfamiliar flora, and bushes.


Good point. Most of what I looked at was "tropical" Florida growing.
Above the freeze line would still suit me fine.
After discussing this thread with my wife, I've concluded the "no
going back" once you sell is the biggest issue for us. Renting this
house out and renting one down there for a year or two might be an
option. The "nest" will remain waiting if the new one doesn't work.

--Vic


I really recommend North Florida, from about St. Augustine north, as a
great place for northerners to relocate.

First, real estate prices and most other prices are lower than in South
Florida.

Second, the climate is better. There really are seasons, albeit the
winter is mild.

Third, there are many beautiful uncrowded beaches.

The downside is that the area is parochial, and infested with right-wing
religious nutcases. But you can avoid them for the most part.

On Sat, 12 May 2007 11:08:00 -0400, HK wrote:

I really recommend North Florida, from about St. Augustine north, as a
great place for northerners to relocate.

First, real estate prices and most other prices are lower than in South
Florida.

Second, the climate is better. There really are seasons, albeit the
winter is mild.

Third, there are many beautiful uncrowded beaches.

The downside is that the area is parochial, and infested with right-wing
religious nutcases. But you can avoid them for the most part.

Finding your neighbors are running meth labs and let their pit bulls
run loose is probably a bigger concern, but I know what you mean.
I was raised a Baptist, but haven't been in a church for years, except
for weddings and funerals.
Even less chance of me going to church down there with all that
rattlesnake kissing going on.

--Vic

Vic Smith wrote:
On Sat, 12 May 2007 11:08:00 -0400, HK wrote:
I really recommend North Florida, from about St. Augustine north, as a
great place for northerners to relocate.

First, real estate prices and most other prices are lower than in South
Florida.

Second, the climate is better. There really are seasons, albeit the
winter is mild.

Third, there are many beautiful uncrowded beaches.

The downside is that the area is parochial, and infested with right-wing
religious nutcases. But you can avoid them for the most part.

Finding your neighbors are running meth labs and let their pit bulls
run loose is probably a bigger concern, but I know what you mean.
I was raised a Baptist, but haven't been in a church for years, except
for weddings and funerals.
Even less chance of me going to church down there with all that
rattlesnake kissing going on.

--Vic


The first and only time I ran into snake handlers was in Loudoun County,
Virginia, near Dulles Airport. I took a wrong turn while driving to
Dulles and found myself on a lovely little country road. On that road
was a little church where the faithful were involved in an outdoor snake
prayer fest.

This was in 1970 or so. I'd bet that church is long gone by now.

For the first year we lived in Florida, not a week went by without some
uninvited church representatives knocking on our door and asking all
sorts of questions they had no business asking. They really were obnoxious.