JohnH,

DAMN. Can you believe how accurately that describes Harry. Normally people
might have 75% of the symptoms, Harry had 100% It seems as if the author
personally knew Harry. I guess that is what happens when you are Anal
Retentive and NPD.

I am impressed with your Google skills.


"PocoLoco" wrote in message
...
On Sun, 2 Oct 2005 15:41:37 -0400, "Mr. Skip Starbuck"
wrote:

"Maladaptation in this stage manifests as either anal expulsive
personality
or
anal retentive personality, both of which lead to immature and neurotic
behavior
in one's adult life."

Is Narcissistic personality disorder considered Neurotic Behavior?

Some info:

Diagnostic Criteria

A pervasive pattern of grandiosity (in fantasy or behavior), need for
admiration, and lack of empathy, beginning by early adulthood and present
in a
variety of contexts, as indicated by five (or more) of the following:

1. has a grandiose sense of self-importance (e.g., exaggerates
achievements
and talents, expects to be recognized as superior without commensurate
achievements)
2. is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power,
brilliance,
beauty, or ideal love
3. believes that he or she is "special" and unique and can only be
understood
by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people (or
institutions)
4. requires excessive admiration
5. has a sense of entitlement, i.e., unreasonable expectations of
especially
favorable treatment or automatic compliance with his or her expectations
6. is interpersonally exploitative, i.e., takes advantage of others to
achieve his or her own ends
7. lacks empathy: is unwilling to recognize or identify with the
feelings and
needs of others
8. is often envious of others or believes that others are envious of him
or
her
9. shows arrogant, haughty behaviors or attitudes
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Some more info:

FIVE DON'T DO'S
How to Avoid the Wrath of the Narcissist


* Never disagree with the narcissist or contradict him;

* Never offer him any intimacy;

* Look awed by whatever attribute matters to him (for instance: by his
professional achievements or by his good looks, or by his success with
women and
so on);

* Never remind him of life out there and if you do, connect it somehow
to
his sense of grandiosity;

* Do not make any comment, which might directly or indirectly impinge
on his
self-image, omnipotence, judgment, omniscience, skills, capabilities,
professional record, or even omnipresence. Bad sentences start with: "I
think
you overlooked ... made a mistake here ... you don't know ... do you know
...
you were not here yesterday so ... you cannot ... you should ...
(perceived as
rude imposition, narcissists react very badly to restrictions placed on
their
freedom) ... I (never mention the fact that you are a separate,
independent
entity, narcissists regard others as extensions of their selves, their
internalization processes were screwed up and they did not differentiate
properly) ..." You get the gist of it.
*******************************************

Some good info can be found at:

http://www.angelfire.com/ego/narcissism/

Including:

"Lying is an integral part of the narcissist's behavior and all their
self-reports are unreliable. His cognition is impaired to the extent that
he
frequently misinterprets other's speech, actions, and thoughts. He may
believe
that someone respects or loves him although this is a fantasy which exists
only
in the mind of the narcissist."


--
John H

"All decisions are the result of binary thinking."