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On Tue, 18 Jan 2005 16:48:44 GMT, "Doug Kanter"
wrote: "Gould 0738" wrote in message ... As far as humanitarian horrors, last week's news reported that in New Jersey, kids charged with minor offenses are often placed in maximum security juvenile prisons while being "processed". Many end up so traumatized that they're unable to function normally in society. Onto the bombing list with New Jersey. That's called "scared straight". It works. Dave It's called anal rape and sodomy. "Scared straight" is when you take convicts into schoolhouses, etc, and have them describe the horrors of prison life to the kids. It has nothing to do with throwing *accused* juvenile offenders in with convicted, sex-starved, deviant felons. I'm afraid rape and sodomy may be the way Dave maintains control at home. Doug. You've crossed the line. Dave |
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On Tue, 18 Jan 2005 16:57:24 GMT, "Doug Kanter"
wrote: "Jim Carter" wrote in message ... "Harry Krause" wrote in message ... Doug Kanter wrote: I'm afraid rape and sodomy may be the way Dave maintains control at home. You think he's the willing victim? That's not very nice comments guys! Give the poor fellow a break. He may not be an intellectual star but I think he is an OK person. Jim Carter "The Boat" Bayfield I think he's an OK person too, Jim. But, I also know he's at least partially influenced by a tradition that promotes rules to live by such as "Spare the rod and spoil the child". Can you tell me (without resorting to personal insults) just why that practice is not the best course of action? It's no coincidence that in the last generation or so of "Dr. Spock-like" liberal upbringing where a child's need to "express themselves" is paramount, and that maintaining their self esteem at all costs is more important than what they do to earn it, that we have had more trouble than ever with youth violence and underachievers. The people I know who ran roughshod over their children have, in the vast majority of cases, turned out much more socially adjusted kids, who respect the rules of society, and have much less neuroses, and other social "issues". They are also more likely to pursue higher education and more productive careers. Those kids who were raised with "hands off" parents, ended up, if not in the criminal justice system, they are now working in low pay jobs, with little self respect, and are more likely to vote for a democrat. Dave |
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Dave Hall wrote: On Tue, 18 Jan 2005 12:43:36 GMT, "Doug Kanter" wrote: "Dave Hall" wrote in message .. . On Mon, 17 Jan 2005 19:34:41 GMT, "Doug Kanter" wrote: "Dave Hall" wrote in message ... On Mon, 17 Jan 2005 14:45:26 GMT, "Doug Kanter" wrote: "Dave Hall" wrote in message om... Dead is dead. Doesn't matter whether your head's cut off, or a ..223 round slices open an artery in your leg and you watch yourself bleed to death. Our methods are no more civilized than theirs. We don't televise our combat killing. In fact we don't kidnap innocent non-combatents and execute them as terrorist propaganda. No. We stick them in a Cuban prison for 3 years and refuse to let them communicate with the outside world. Much less brutal. Dave It's kidnapping. Not if the person is an enemy of the state. Dave If they cannot communicate outside the prison, how do YOU know they're enemies of the state? Because our government said so. Damned right! And by golly, we KNOW that we must goose-step to the furor Bush. |
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"Dave Hall" wrote in message ... On Tue, 18 Jan 2005 16:57:24 GMT, "Doug Kanter" wrote: "Jim Carter" wrote in message ... "Harry Krause" wrote in message ... Doug Kanter wrote: I'm afraid rape and sodomy may be the way Dave maintains control at home. You think he's the willing victim? That's not very nice comments guys! Give the poor fellow a break. He may not be an intellectual star but I think he is an OK person. Jim Carter "The Boat" Bayfield I think he's an OK person too, Jim. But, I also know he's at least partially influenced by a tradition that promotes rules to live by such as "Spare the rod and spoil the child". Can you tell me (without resorting to personal insults) just why that practice is not the best course of action? It's no coincidence that in the last generation or so of "Dr. Spock-like" liberal upbringing where a child's need to "express themselves" is paramount, and that maintaining their self esteem at all costs is more important than what they do to earn it, that we have had more trouble than ever with youth violence and underachievers. The people I know who ran roughshod over their children have, in the vast majority of cases, turned out much more socially adjusted kids, who respect the rules of society, and have much less neuroses, and other social "issues". They are also more likely to pursue higher education and more productive careers. Those kids who were raised with "hands off" parents, ended up, if not in the criminal justice system, they are now working in low pay jobs, with little self respect, and are more likely to vote for a democrat. Dave 1) Your last paragraph describes only the people you choose to focus on. Other than that, you have absolutely no information that allows you to generalize outside of that small sample. 2) In the next to last paragraph, you say "last generation". For the generation or two before that, you have no way in hell of knowing how many parents smacked their children around and how many didn't. You simply WANT to believe in some mythical "good ole days". 3) On a 1 to 10 "offense scale", a kid should have to reach a 9-1/2 before he/she gets wailed on. If a parent lets loose for anything less than that, he's a lazy sack of **** who doesn't know how to solve problems in an assertive way that commands respect. |
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Doug Kanter wrote:
You know what's so pathetic about this subject? It was obvious to any thinking person that troops would have to be moved from one campaign to the other. If Bush a real leader, he wouldn't have waited until the press was nipping at his heels to discuss this subject. No. He would've been proactive and told the country what was going on up front, and explained the reasoning behind it. Doesn't matter. Even when it became glaringly obvious that George Bush Jr doesn't have a clue, and cannot justify *any* of "his" policies and actions in office, and the damage done by his administration is also made glaringly obvious, he still won the election. After all, it's a popularity contest and President Bush is a "likeable guy." ... If people are going to receive bad news, they'd rather get it with an explanation, I think. It shows that the bearer of the news trusts and respects their intelligence. But in this case, 51% of the people who voted didn't have any intelligence. Oh well. At least that's how I would do things if were king. You didn't pick your parents right, that's all. DSK |
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"DSK" wrote in message
.. . Doug Kanter wrote: You know what's so pathetic about this subject? It was obvious to any thinking person that troops would have to be moved from one campaign to the other. If Bush a real leader, he wouldn't have waited until the press was nipping at his heels to discuss this subject. No. He would've been proactive and told the country what was going on up front, and explained the reasoning behind it. Doesn't matter. Even when it became glaringly obvious that George Bush Jr doesn't have a clue, and cannot justify *any* of "his" policies and actions in office, and the damage done by his administration is also made glaringly obvious, he still won the election. After all, it's a popularity contest and President Bush is a "likeable guy." After his first election, I heard a news reporter on the radio, interviewing young people around Columbia University, if I recall. She was wondering who they voted for, and why. I think the theme of the story was how politically astute the new crop of voters were. One female student responded "I voted for Bush cause...like....they both...like seemed the same to be, but he has cute ears". puke |
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On Wed, 19 Jan 2005 14:36:56 GMT, "Doug Kanter"
wrote: "Dave Hall" wrote in message .. . On Tue, 18 Jan 2005 16:48:44 GMT, "Doug Kanter" wrote: "Gould 0738" wrote in message ... As far as humanitarian horrors, last week's news reported that in New Jersey, kids charged with minor offenses are often placed in maximum security juvenile prisons while being "processed". Many end up so traumatized that they're unable to function normally in society. Onto the bombing list with New Jersey. That's called "scared straight". It works. Dave It's called anal rape and sodomy. "Scared straight" is when you take convicts into schoolhouses, etc, and have them describe the horrors of prison life to the kids. It has nothing to do with throwing *accused* juvenile offenders in with convicted, sex-starved, deviant felons. I'm afraid rape and sodomy may be the way Dave maintains control at home. Doug. You've crossed the line. Dave Well, in yesterday's message, you seem to be edging toward saying it's OK for a first time 13 year old shoplifter to be locked up with a violent felon who will have his way with the kid. If it's OK for someone else's kid, then logically, it must be OK for yours, too. That conclusion is supported by what you said in yet another message, where you say it's OK to "run roughshod" over your kids. Make up your mind. A simple apology for your uncalled for extreme allegation would be what a real man would do. Dave |
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On Wed, 19 Jan 2005 14:33:39 GMT, "Doug Kanter"
wrote: It's no coincidence that in the last generation or so of "Dr. Spock-like" liberal upbringing where a child's need to "express themselves" is paramount, and that maintaining their self esteem at all costs is more important than what they do to earn it, that we have had more trouble than ever with youth violence and underachievers. The people I know who ran roughshod over their children have, in the vast majority of cases, turned out much more socially adjusted kids, who respect the rules of society, and have much less neuroses, and other social "issues". They are also more likely to pursue higher education and more productive careers. Those kids who were raised with "hands off" parents, ended up, if not in the criminal justice system, they are now working in low pay jobs, with little self respect, and are more likely to vote for a democrat. Dave 1) Your last paragraph describes only the people you choose to focus on. Other than that, you have absolutely no information that allows you to generalize outside of that small sample. There's no reason to believe that there would be much difference in other samplings. As I get older and talk with more people, I am still told similar stories, from other people in my generation. I have no reason to believe that my informal survey is not reflective of reality. I also have the incidents of school shootings, and school violence in general, which has been on an increase since I was in school. In my old high school, when I went there, the worst we ever had to deal with was an occasional fist fight after school. Now, my old high school has metal detectors and armed security people in the school. This can be directly attributed to lackluster parental influence in the child's discipline. Two working parents and day care child rearing is probably the root of the problem. 2) In the next to last paragraph, you say "last generation". For the generation or two before that, you have no way in hell of knowing how many parents smacked their children around and how many didn't. You simply WANT to believe in some mythical "good ole days". I know how I, and most of my friends and other peers were raised. Our parents demanded to know each and everything we did, where we went, how long we would be gone, who we were with, numbers where we could be reached at etc. We were given strict "be home by" times. The neighborhood parents all kept an eye on the comings and goings of all the neighborhood kids, and if they saw something "suspicious", it was reported to the proper parent. If any of us was "out of line", we were punished for it. I went to bed without dinner on more than a few occasions before I wised up. When the teachers requested a conference, the parents listened to the teacher, and took the corrective measures to deal with their kids. They didn't become defensive and insist that "their child couldn't possibly do that", and blame the teacher for the issue. Like I told you in another thread Doug, I have a fantastic memory for what happened many years ago. I not only remember such trivial things as my 7th grade locker combination, I also remember most of my "bad" deeds and which punishments affected me the most. I can therefore apply the same techniques to my kid. My mother, not one to ever take back a punishment, once told me that if she ever caught me smoking, that she would not sign for my driver's license or learner's permit. From past experience, I had no reason to believe that she was not dead serious, and I never took the chance. Driving a car meant much more to me than looking "cool" while hanging around with the kids who were smoking. I had strict upbringing. It was not all "getting smacked around". But my parents were quick to come down on bad behavior, and they followed through for the duration, which means that if I was grounded for a week, I didn't go out until the week was over. There was no bargaining. Whining about it would only add more time to the punishment. That's probably why I used to read a lot when I was kid. There was not much else to do when confined to your room. I learned the rule of law, and moral conduct as a result. This is what's lacking in much of today's child rearing. 3) On a 1 to 10 "offense scale", a kid should have to reach a 9-1/2 before he/she gets wailed on. If a parent lets loose for anything less than that, he's a lazy sack of **** who doesn't know how to solve problems in an assertive way that commands respect. "Strict" parenting does not mean "wailing" on the kid for every thing they do. Privilege deprivation is usually more effective. Dave |
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"Dave Hall" wrote in message
... 3) On a 1 to 10 "offense scale", a kid should have to reach a 9-1/2 before he/she gets wailed on. If a parent lets loose for anything less than that, he's a lazy sack of **** who doesn't know how to solve problems in an assertive way that commands respect. "Strict" parenting does not mean "wailing" on the kid for every thing they do. Privilege deprivation is usually more effective. Dave YOU used the term "run roughshod over kids". I interpret that as wailing on them. The other things you describe - wanting to know where kids are going, who they're with, when they'll be home - those things don't fall under that heading. Those things are normal, for me at least. My son's as rebellious as any 15 year old, but I've always been able to communicate with him in a way that eliminates anything worse than the occasional need to raise my voice so he knows something's serious. |
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