"Bob Crantz" wrote:

"Lady Pilot" wrote:
"Bob Crantz" wrote:
I wouldn't consider her an a**hole, unless she had malicious intent not
standing watches.

Some people have no idea or no control over what they are.

Oh sure they do, I believe. It's all in the motivation to get someone to
change.

I said "some people". Outside of that grouping, there are some people
that do change.

I agree that "some people do not change", but I was disagreeing with your
point that "some people have *no control* over what they are. Are you
saying Jeffrey Dahmer had no control over killing and eating his victims?

Maybe there is a point in life when they are so possessed with evil that at
that point they can't change.



You can't change them and getting mad at them doesn't do squat.

Very true!

The best is to accept them for what they are and avoid them at all cost.

Why would you do that? Unless of course you didn't have the time or
interest into investing in their lives...

Or you don't want the consequences. Screw ups are screw ups. If you are
into codependency then it may be worth it.

This has nothing to do with codependency. I'm not "codependent" on my next
door neighbor that's an old cranky putz. Kill them with kindness, I say.

Sad to say that method doesn't work on everyone.

LP