"katysails" wrote in message

I'm not going to drag the scenario of what we went through on this public
forum, Max, but suffice it to say, the "sister protector" as you called
her
was after one thing...money...and if you sit through Care Conferences that
involve family members, that is what motivates most people in their
decisions about nursing homes, health care, etc. Mom's money is now being
used to take care of her. We do not care if there is nothing left over
when
she goes. Unfortunately, that was not the case on the other side. the
other thing is that she lives in Minnesota, removed from the situation.
And
like I said, we see Mom every day. We go in at mealtime and feed her. I
do
some of her personal care. So, in retrospect, your judgment of me is
about
par with mine of you...and that's the last of this discussion.

Yes, sadly I'm aware that money often plays a part in such situations.
We're facing this now with Janie's mother (Alzheimer's, in a facility) and
her father (living independently). We, like you, don't give a rodent's
posterior if he spends all his money caring for her and himself. To the
contrary, we believe, as good conservatives do, that the gummint (read: us
taxpayers) should not have to bear that burden. But my in-laws see things
differently, and would love to cash in someday. Such was not the case in
Dad's situation. Neither my brother nor I wanted his money. So that was
not an issue.

Nuf said.

Max