"Don White" wrote in message
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It's taken 15 months but we finally have mom settled in the nicest nursing
home in the Halifax area. (physical structure anyway)


Congratulations. That is quite an accomplishment and I mean that sincerely.
Hope she (and you) can relax and enjoy the rest of the time she has left on
this earth.

We are going through the initial stages of the same thing, except there're
three elders to consider.
My 80 year old mother moved into the old farmhouse at the end of our
driveway after my dad passed away 7 years ago. She's done very well
maintaining her independence, learning how to use a computer for email and
ordering items on the Internet or shopping for food using the home delivery
service, "PeaPod". Unfortunately, her ability to live alone is coming to
an end, however.

She has a rare form of MS that is very slow progressing, but over time it
robs her of her mobility. When she first moved in, she could still get
around with the aid of a walker. Now, she's confined to a wheelchair and,
unfortunately it's becoming very difficult and dangerous for her to transfer
herself from it to the bath or bed. Last week she fell at 6AM. She wears
one of those "Help, I fell and can't get up" transmitters. It
automatically called both the paramedics and our house. It took three of us
to get her off the floor and back into the wheelchair. She's not that
heavy, but it's like picking up a wet noodle because she has very little
strength to hold on. This wasn't the first emergency call to 911. It's
starting to become more and more regular.

Anyway, she seemed fine until the day before yesterday. She can't feel much
in her legs, but complained about a sore ankle.
Took her to the hospital and sure enough. It was broken in three places.
So now she's in a cast from toe to knee for the next 6-8 weeks.

It's time for assisted living, except I have some concern that she may not
qualify. You have to be able to transfer yourself from the wheelchair to
bed, etc. in most places. I am afraid a nursing home may be in order, much
to her dismay. I really don't know what else to do. We may have waited
too long, having her live in the old house we bought.

Meanwhile, Mrs.E.'s parents are in a similar situation. Her mother has
about the same mobility as mine and needs daily assistance.
Her father suffered a stroke a year or so ago and really isn't all there.
He acts and thinks like a five or six year old. Caring for them keeps my
wife and her sister constantly busy and there's always the fear in the back
of your minds that something stupid is going to happen. The other day her
father decided to turn the self-clean cycle of the stove on, but forgot to
take out a bunch of pots and pans with plastic handles. Set off all the
fire alarms and filled the house with smoke.

We knew this day was coming. It's one of the primary reasons we ended up
selling the properties in Florida and gave up living down there during the
winter.

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Eisboch

"Eisboch" wrote in message
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We are going through the initial stages of the same thing, except there're
three elders to consider.
My 80 year old mother moved into the old farmhouse at the end of our
driveway after my dad passed away 7 years ago. She's done very well
maintaining her independence, learning how to use a computer for email and
ordering items on the Internet or shopping for food using the home
delivery service, "PeaPod". Unfortunately, her ability to live alone is
coming to an end, however.

She has a rare form of MS that is very slow progressing, but over time it
robs her of her mobility. When she first moved in, she could still get
around with the aid of a walker. Now, she's confined to a wheelchair
and, unfortunately it's becoming very difficult and dangerous for her to
transfer herself from it to the bath or bed. Last week she fell at 6AM.
She wears one of those "Help, I fell and can't get up" transmitters. It
automatically called both the paramedics and our house. It took three of
us to get her off the floor and back into the wheelchair. She's not that
heavy, but it's like picking up a wet noodle because she has very little
strength to hold on. This wasn't the first emergency call to 911. It's
starting to become more and more regular.

Anyway, she seemed fine until the day before yesterday. She can't feel
much in her legs, but complained about a sore ankle.
Took her to the hospital and sure enough. It was broken in three places.
So now she's in a cast from toe to knee for the next 6-8 weeks.

It's time for assisted living, except I have some concern that she may not
qualify. You have to be able to transfer yourself from the wheelchair to
bed, etc. in most places. I am afraid a nursing home may be in order,
much to her dismay. I really don't know what else to do. We may have
waited too long, having her live in the old house we bought.

snip...
Yup. Up here there is assisted living for those who just need help with
housekeeping, meals etc.
Mom was a level 1 when she went into the hospital 15 months ago but quickly
dropped to a Level 2...
she needs help getting to the toilet etc. (although she does go on her own
on occasion when she can't wait for the help)
I imagine the system is quicker down your way although I bet a bit more
expensive.
Mom pays a few pennies shy of $50.00 per day. This still leaves her a bit
over $300. per month for haircuts, clothing etc.
Good luck and I hope your mom is agreeable to the move. You will feel a bit
guilty when you hand her over to the health system, but it is best for
her... lots of new friends, exercise classes, outings, social activities
etc.

"Eisboch" wrote in message
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"Don White" wrote in message
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It's taken 15 months but we finally have mom settled in the nicest
nursing home in the Halifax area. (physical structure anyway)


Congratulations. That is quite an accomplishment and I mean that
sincerely. Hope she (and you) can relax and enjoy the rest of the time she
has left on this earth.

We are going through the initial stages of the same thing, except there're
three elders to consider.
My 80 year old mother moved into the old farmhouse at the end of our
driveway after my dad passed away 7 years ago. She's done very well
maintaining her independence, learning how to use a computer for email and
ordering items on the Internet or shopping for food using the home
delivery service, "PeaPod". Unfortunately, her ability to live alone is
coming to an end, however.

She has a rare form of MS that is very slow progressing, but over time it
robs her of her mobility. When she first moved in, she could still get
around with the aid of a walker. Now, she's confined to a wheelchair
and, unfortunately it's becoming very difficult and dangerous for her to
transfer herself from it to the bath or bed. Last week she fell at 6AM.
She wears one of those "Help, I fell and can't get up" transmitters. It
automatically called both the paramedics and our house. It took three of
us to get her off the floor and back into the wheelchair. She's not that
heavy, but it's like picking up a wet noodle because she has very little
strength to hold on. This wasn't the first emergency call to 911. It's
starting to become more and more regular.

Anyway, she seemed fine until the day before yesterday. She can't feel
much in her legs, but complained about a sore ankle.
Took her to the hospital and sure enough. It was broken in three places.
So now she's in a cast from toe to knee for the next 6-8 weeks.

It's time for assisted living, except I have some concern that she may not
qualify. You have to be able to transfer yourself from the wheelchair to
bed, etc. in most places. I am afraid a nursing home may be in order,
much to her dismay. I really don't know what else to do. We may have
waited too long, having her live in the old house we bought.

Meanwhile, Mrs.E.'s parents are in a similar situation. Her mother has
about the same mobility as mine and needs daily assistance.
Her father suffered a stroke a year or so ago and really isn't all there.
He acts and thinks like a five or six year old. Caring for them keeps my
wife and her sister constantly busy and there's always the fear in the
back of your minds that something stupid is going to happen. The other
day her father decided to turn the self-clean cycle of the stove on, but
forgot to take out a bunch of pots and pans with plastic handles. Set
off all the fire alarms and filled the house with smoke.

We knew this day was coming. It's one of the primary reasons we ended up
selling the properties in Florida and gave up living down there during the
winter.

shutter

Eisboch


I can feel for you. My mom is 93 and still lives alone. But the memory is
slipping fast, My brother and I go over several times a week, and do the
shopping, etc. Take her good meals. She worked a lot of her years as an RN
as a charge nurse for old peoples homes, and she is as hard headed as they
come. Is sad to say, that it would be good if she passed before we had to
check her in to a full service place. Having seen lots of people that have
no idea of who they are and eating with their fingers, I would hate to see
that happen. My dad and stepfather have both been gone for 25 and 40 years.
so she is the last. Except for my dads youngest sister who is still going
fine at 83.