"Paul Cassel" wrote in message
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Wilbur Hubbard wrote:


Go ahead, be honest. Admit you're doing it mostly for YOU. Don't try
to beat around the bush and couch it in terms of easing somebody
else's mind. That's a cop-out and you know it.


Admit what's not true? Hardly. I spent weeks offshore singlehanding in
perfect comfort mentally if not physically. If you mean a double back
slash something or other that I want to call my daughter to make her
feel better because that way I feel better, ok, that's true. In the
same way I give flowers to my wife (I'm remarried) to make her feel
better but when I please her, I feel good about that.

My daughter was anxious when I went offshore a few years ago. She said
so before I left and after I returned. My idea of a good time isn't
making her unhappy. She's my daughter - do you have one? If you do,
you surely understand what I'm driving at.

-paul

I understand because you're more like most of the people these days. But
that doesn't make it right or even productive.

Your daughter points out the difference in our outlooks. While your
daughter was anxious about your well-being mine just said, "Have fun,
Daddy, and be careful. I'll see you when you get back."

You raised your daughter to be just like her Dad - a dependent person
who worries. I raised mine to be just like me - an independent person
who doesn't worry. She's somebody who is secure and happy and does not
derive her happiness from an old man and I wouldn't have her any other
way . . .

Look at it this way. When you die your poor daughter will be
grief-stricken and lost while mine will say in her mind, "Fair winds,
Daddy, wherever you may be sailing now. It was good knowing you and I
will always love you for raising me to appreciate the way the world
works and to enjoy the positive and to reject the negative."

Wilbur Hubbard