Hi, again, Rosalie and group,

"Rosalie B." wrote in message
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Cool. Good to have competent help. I believe I did *not* get that the
first time around - I was part of a public hospital system with mostly

Sounds like it to me too. I won't speak to public hospital systems -
most of my medical care while Bob was in the Navy (20 years) was
through the Navy clinics for which we paid nothing. Some folks did
not believe that this was as good as private care, but I never had any
complaints that I could point to the system about.

I think - though, having washed out of the flight program I'd targeted my
entire life prior to that point for due to marginally red-green colorblind
vision, I don't have any direct experience - that military health care has
orders of magnitude more quality and accessibility than "public" health
care. I made a career out of sitting and waiting, despite taking great
pains to make appointments (rather than the typical cattle call clinic
experience), along with a second career keeping up with paperwork (which,
despite my best efforts, proved unsuccessful, as I'm still being billed 3
years later). I'd have *loved* to have been in a military hospital...

charity patients, and wasn't happy at the time with any of the
experience.
I believe I had competent care and surgery - but I also believe the
followup
should have caught this, and for that, I was very poorly served. In any
event, I've (now) got the best shoulder surgeon available, from all I can
discern, so I'm confident we're giving it our best shot at this time.
Unfortunately, that best shot is only a crapshoot, with a 50-50
likelihood
of success. Fortunately, it can't be made worse...

I think Lydia ought to chill and consider your health first.

Well, the health (with the possible exception of the mental part) will be
well taken care of. However, she's not the least bit interested in
(well,
let me rephrase that: adamantly opposed to) any delay whatsoever. And,

Think about whether this is going to be a problem down the road - i.e.
is she going to be wanting you to do things that are unwise (enter a
harbor at night, stay at a place that is unsafe etc)? Are you going
to let her sway your decisions unwisely?

Heh. I don't think there's any wisdom involved here - just my preference to
have more of the summer to enjoy, as long as we're going to be delayed,
anyway. On reflection, that's probably (well, certainly, particularly
since Lydia's lost all interest in her job at the moment, and any delay just
makes it worse) pretty selfish, and she's committed to doing the physically
demanding stuff I'll not be able to do this summer WRT the getting ready of
the house. It will mean that I'll be able to work on the boat this winter,
rather than in the oven it would be this summer, so it's a tradeoff, I
guess. If it were a health or safety issue, to answer your question, I'd not
let go - and, for that matter, I expect, if I were able to make an argument
which had some tangible other benefit beyond my enjoyment of the summer, she
might be more enthusiastic about putting it off. As it is, we'll still be
around during her son's graduation in December, and I'll be around for the
birth of my third grandchild sometime about the same time, as well, without
having to have bought an airplane ride for the two of us and having to
figure out how to deal with both transportation and lodging. :{))

(story clipped)


I consider it is my 'job' to be the spoiler (so to speak) to make sure
that we don't get into situations like that. But in this case, I
allowed him to persuade me when I should have insisted that we stay.

Ah, but were you 'pressured' - or did you agree with the assessment, and
find, only later, when you were in it, that it was incorrect? In any case,
I'm pretty conservative. Until we've been shown to be mistaken (by being
caught out, as is unavoidable) about our advisability to do something, we're
going to keep it safe. That's why, even though I was quite certain the boat
could do more, we started on staysail and double reef in our
25-30knot/8-10feet first couple of days :{))

L8R

Skip and Lydia

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"And then again, when you sit at the helm of your little ship on a
clear night, and gaze at the countless stars overhead, and realize
that you are quite alone on a great, wide sea, it is apt to occur to
you that in the general scheme of things you are merely an
insignificant speck on the surface of the ocean; and are not nearly
so important or as self-sufficient as you thought you were. Which is
an exceedingly wholesome thought, and one that may effect a
permanent change in your deportment that will be greatly appreciated
by your friends." - James S. Pitkin