"katy" wrote
Most often the wives died of puepheral fever (childbed fever) and
the children of measles, mumps, etc. You have a very jaded view of
family farm life.

Geeze, you got so worked up your typo rate increased. We are talking apples and
oranges.

Go back before your grandfather - to the heyday of the "family farm" in the
early and mid 1800s before machinery reduced the need for labor. Yes, most often
wives died in childbirth, died to produce the crop of laborers needed to make a
"family farm" a viable economic unit. The kids who died on the farm were the
lucky ones. Their siblings were forced off the family farm by their nieces and
nephews who took their places doing the chores without pay. They ended up dying
young in big city sweat shops and opium dens over a "pipe dream".

By the time you speak of, machinery had replaced the big family and made family
farms inefficient. Until then the size of a farm without slaves was limited by
the number of kids the farmer had to do his work. One man with a spade can only
tend a garden. One man with draft animals and 15 kids can farm 160 acres or
more (the basis of 'townships') but he'll kill 3 wives to get them. OTOH, with
two tractors, a planter and a combine, plus a mower and bailer, and no kids, I
raised enough corn and alfalfa to feed 800 feeder calves while working a full
time 40hr/week job to boot. Had I worked the farm exclusively, I could have
farmed four times the acreage or more. That's the modern economic farm unit.
The "family farm" cannot compete with it any more than a smith can compete with
a factory.

But that made me a "farmer" in name only - I spent more time maintaining
machinery and feeding cattle than planting and harvesting. And I certainly
wasn't a "family farmer" (My wife & daughter wanted no part of it!). No, I
"share cropped" the cattle part of the operation on 270 acres, buying weaned
calves and feeding them out to slaughter, and leased I several similar farms
from folks like your grandparents to grow grain and fodder for them. I don't say
none exist but I don't know any "family farmers" nowadays except the Amish.

So, while your grandparents may not have had quite as efficient and modern
equipment as I, they didn't need 15 (or 5) kids to make a viable economic unit.
So their (and my) operations were more akin to factory farms than to the family
farms of the 19th century. They (and I) didn't have a family farm, they were
merely a family living on a farm. Many families doing that today own the land
but hire "custom pickers" to plant and harvest their crops. It's easy to be
nostalgic for such an existence. But they are no more "family farmers" than a
factory owner is a blacksmith. If he is, it's a hobby.

Yes they were lucky to have the farm. Many overmortgaged theirs in the
preceeding inflationary boom to buy more land and machinery. Then with deflation
they had a farm worth far less than the mortgage and an income less than the
payment. So the bank forclosed and the farm sat fallow while people starved.