Even more to the point, our kids need to realize that about us, their
parents.

Because of Grandma, my kids are aware and make it a point to go to the
nursing home, even though she doesn't remember them...and my grandkids go
too....there is no shielding from reality....we have residents whose
families actually do not bring children because they can't bear them to see
what has become of their grandparent...so the image of the sweet, kindly
person they once knew stays in their mind instead of facing the realities of
life...is on par with people who don't allow children to go to funerals
because they shouldn't see grief and suffering....
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My niece is over to the house almost everyday. She has seen her grandparents
slip down that slope but is involved in everything they do. She is the light
of their lives and we have discussed this aging topic with her. She'll help
her grandfather and grandmother with chores and forces them to take walks
with her. She helps me with killing the meat birds but is very careful and
attentive to the livestock. She knows her responsibilities and has a firm
grasp on the realities of life.

These are the benefits of having your family together..... she's only 6
years old. She's way ahead of her peers in comprehension of the world and
will develop into a fine young lady.

I pity the false protection offered by the well intentioned but mistaken
majority.

CM


"katysails" wrote in message
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|
| Even more to the point, our kids need to realize that about us, their
| parents.
|
| Because of Grandma, my kids are aware and make it a point to go to the
| nursing home, even though she doesn't remember them...and my grandkids go
| too....there is no shielding from reality....we have residents whose
| families actually do not bring children because they can't bear them to
see
| what has become of their grandparent...so the image of the sweet, kindly
| person they once knew stays in their mind instead of facing the realities
of
| life...is on par with people who don't allow children to go to funerals
| because they shouldn't see grief and suffering....

You know, Mooron, part of this has to do with the fact that you are dealing
with the Canadian social medicine program. My cousin in Ontario was a home
health aide and worked in a nursing home for a long time and she said
conditions were desperate. I know from my daughter-in-law, who works in a
home in Georgia, that the quality of care is not the same as here in
Michigan. For the most part, Michigan homes are run decently. Like I said,
ours is a top of the line establishment and is totally private pay. My
aunt, however, was in a Medicare/Medicaid funded home last spring after
heart surgery and the care she received was outstanding. If you're coming
fromthe premise that yes, Canadian nursing homes leave a lot to be desired,
then maybe I can see your point. It's not like that, here, though. We are
regulated to death and the smallest complaint from a family member has the
State of Michigan investigating immediately lobby group, Citizens for Better
Care on our doorstep for an investigation. The fines and penalties if
you're found negligent are steep and are paid over to the resident.

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