I tried to warm Capt. Skippy several years ago that his sailing
life would be severely curtailed by his better half. I often told
him that women were nesters and they sure didn't consider
a boat sailing upon the watery parts of the globe to be an
adequate nest or even a nest at all.

For women, their nests can't move around. Their nests
must remain in one place so they feel comfortable in that
they surround themselves with friends and acquaintances
who also don't move around. Also, women are strange in
that they are only truly comfortable when they surround
themselves with LOTS of belongings. This means their
nest must consist of a very large house with many, many
rooms in which they can store all their memorabilia.

Women must be able to lean over the back fence and gossip
with well-known neighbors. Women must be able to have
access to reliable air conditioning and thousands of gallons
of hot water for their sometimes twice daily ablutions. And,
heaven forbid, women should limit their use of electricity.
Why, they think the grid was invented just for them.

Women also need to feel loved and appreciated by all their
relatives. Women feel lost when isolated for significant
periods of time away from their relatives, and especially their
children and grandchildren.

The ONLY viable solution, Skippy, is for you to buy Lydia
a very large and very comfortable house close by her
relatives. Then offer her a chance to go sailing with you
and she will refuse claiming she is needed and has too
many obligations at home. This way you will have a place
to return if and when you tire of sailing.

But, in the meanwhile, put up some "crew needed" adverts
but don't tell Lydia about them. Advertise for a young,
adventurous, female with no encumbrances who is wishing
to have a sailing adventure or two and see some of the world
such as the Bahamas. A young, fit female often wants to
see some of the world before she settles down and raises
a family and establishes herself ashore. These adventuresome
young ladies are a total joy to interact with as their attitude is
one of freedom, sharing of the good times, having fun, enjoying
sex for sex sake, etc. They usually like to cook and enjoy
preparing meals.

Go for it, Skippy! If you don't, I fear you will only dream about
sailing from this time forward.

--
Sir Gregory