"Skip Gundlach"
skipgundlach.sez.remove.this.and.the.dots.to.mail
wrote:

Hi, again, Rosalie and group,

"Rosalie B." wrote in message
news

(story clipped)


I consider it is my 'job' to be the spoiler (so to speak) to make sure
that we don't get into situations like that. But in this case, I
allowed him to persuade me when I should have insisted that we stay.

Ah, but were you 'pressured' - or did you agree with the assessment, and
find, only later, when you were in it, that it was incorrect? In any case,
I'm pretty conservative. Until we've been shown to be mistaken (by being
caught out, as is unavoidable) about our advisability to do something, we're
going to keep it safe. That's why, even though I was quite certain the boat
could do more, we started on staysail and double reef in our
25-30knot/8-10feet first couple of days :{))


I didn't agree with him. I don't know if you could say I was
pressured or not - he didn't actually give me an ultimatum or
anything. He just kept saying stuff like "It doesn't look too bad out
there" and I knew he wanted to leave and I didn't want to upset him.
But I didn't agree - I just didn't have enough information to make
non-agreement stick.

Part of it was that I was a bit anxious about getting back on the boat
anyway, and was quite a bit more fearful than usual, so I tended to
discount my own assessment because of that. I wanted to go to Great
Harbour and he wasn't so interested in doing that, and I had not
realized that the direction of the wind would make going there almost
impossible.

Now, he really has to convince me if I have any doubts at all. This
has led to his complaining that I never want to sail.


grandma Rosalie