On Jan 12, 4:37 pm, Frogwatch wrote:
On Jan 12, 4:23 pm, John H wrote:

On Mon, 12 Jan 2009 12:41:02 -0800 (PST), Frogwatch

wrote:
After months of screwing around and dropping expensive parts in the
water I managed to reinstall my roller furling on my sailboat. It
went incredibly smoothly this time whereas every other time I tried it
was a fiasco.

Congrats!

Actually, I think the cool weather helped. When I am on the dock in
the summer and it is 100 degrees and nearly 99% humidity and I am
staring up the mast toward the sun my ability to process problems gets
worse. In the cool weather, everything seems much easier. Also, I
ALWAYS do things much better when I am by myself. Having "help" makes
some things nearly impossible for me (yes, I know, it is a personality
flaw). Doing this during the week meant there was nobody on the dock
to volunteer to help so everything went well (weird, I know but true).
NOW, I can go sailing.

This brings up a problem I have and I wonder if others have it.

My wife often says "When you go to work on the boat you ought to take
so and so to help" or "So and so would love to help you work on the
boat", sometimes this will mean my son or daughter or some friend and
most of the time I go alone because I know that with anybody else
along I will get almost nothing done. Even with an extra set of hands
I accomplish less than if I was alone.
This even carries over into the rest of life. For example, right now
I am building a fence to keep the dogs in the yard and my wife keeps
saying our son should help me and I agree he should but I dont know
what I am doing so how can I tell him what to do? For me, it is
easier to figure out a way to do something alone than to figure out
how to use help.
I know this is a problem but I simply do not see how to get around
it. My wife has no problem ordering people to do things but she
simply gets nothing done in spite of it.
Surely, there must be a way to utilize people's help but I simply do
not see it.