"Eisboch" wrote in message
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We are going through the initial stages of the same thing, except there're
three elders to consider.
My 80 year old mother moved into the old farmhouse at the end of our
driveway after my dad passed away 7 years ago. She's done very well
maintaining her independence, learning how to use a computer for email and
ordering items on the Internet or shopping for food using the home
delivery service, "PeaPod". Unfortunately, her ability to live alone is
coming to an end, however.

She has a rare form of MS that is very slow progressing, but over time it
robs her of her mobility. When she first moved in, she could still get
around with the aid of a walker. Now, she's confined to a wheelchair
and, unfortunately it's becoming very difficult and dangerous for her to
transfer herself from it to the bath or bed. Last week she fell at 6AM.
She wears one of those "Help, I fell and can't get up" transmitters. It
automatically called both the paramedics and our house. It took three of
us to get her off the floor and back into the wheelchair. She's not that
heavy, but it's like picking up a wet noodle because she has very little
strength to hold on. This wasn't the first emergency call to 911. It's
starting to become more and more regular.

Anyway, she seemed fine until the day before yesterday. She can't feel
much in her legs, but complained about a sore ankle.
Took her to the hospital and sure enough. It was broken in three places.
So now she's in a cast from toe to knee for the next 6-8 weeks.

It's time for assisted living, except I have some concern that she may not
qualify. You have to be able to transfer yourself from the wheelchair to
bed, etc. in most places. I am afraid a nursing home may be in order,
much to her dismay. I really don't know what else to do. We may have
waited too long, having her live in the old house we bought.

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Yup. Up here there is assisted living for those who just need help with
housekeeping, meals etc.
Mom was a level 1 when she went into the hospital 15 months ago but quickly
dropped to a Level 2...
she needs help getting to the toilet etc. (although she does go on her own
on occasion when she can't wait for the help)
I imagine the system is quicker down your way although I bet a bit more
expensive.
Mom pays a few pennies shy of $50.00 per day. This still leaves her a bit
over $300. per month for haircuts, clothing etc.
Good luck and I hope your mom is agreeable to the move. You will feel a bit
guilty when you hand her over to the health system, but it is best for
her... lots of new friends, exercise classes, outings, social activities
etc.