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A nice day, 12 kts and maybe in the 50s. Sailing with wife, 21 yr old
daughter, 11 yr old daughter and another 11 yr old friend. Everybody
takes turns at the tiller. Unfortunately, my wife is simply unable to
steer. EVERYBODY else quickly grasps the idea of feeling the pressure
on the tiller and steering accordingly. She is unable to do so.
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Are you still in sight of land? Picking a certain landmark to aim at might
help her.
Otherwise , why fight it. Get a tiller tamer for when you need a break and
put her in charge of the jib.