"katy" wrote in message
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Capt. Rob wrote:
it's difficult
to explain to family & friends who aren't sailors or cruisers.



That's because your family probably knows that you prefer to sail,
wanted a sailboat and that you were actively looking at cruising
sailboats, even showing Kathie a C&C at one point. Now you're driving
around in a floating RV and believing, or trying to believe that it's
what you wanted?
Who else in the sailing group has switched to power boating,
Doug...besides you?


RB
35s5
NY

Not going to discuss Doug's personal situation because what he does is his
business but do want to address the ttopic in general.

Just what is the matter with doing something your spouse wants to do or
feels more comfortable doing? Not everyone is the same. You are fortunate,
Bob, that Suzanne likes to sail. I've known many people over the eyars
with sailboats where the wife goes along for the ride or sits on teh dock
and waits for the "floating cottage" to return, irked that their home away
from home actually left the dock. The idea that someone would be
condiserate of someone else's feelings and maybe supplant their own
interests for awhile is commendable. It shows a strong relationship and a
willingness to go the extra mile for their partner. So waht are you going
to do, if perchance, Suzanne decides one day that sailing just isn't it
anymore and that the boys, now teenagers, would really rather have a jet
boat? She will impress on you taht they've ahd it with sailing and that as
a father, your responsibility is to the family, not to sailing. So,
becasue you do not want to lose that precious link that holds the family
together, good times, you either downgrade the sailboat so that you can
have a little sojourn once in a great while and buy a jet boat for the
family, or you give up sailing entirely to immerse yourself into the
family ecperience. What's going to happen when your boys, down the line,
find out that fast and noise is more fun and that dinking along on
something that only goes 7 knots at best is rather a dull way to spend the
afternoon? Now don;t tell me you're going to insure that that doesn't
happen by totally immersing your kids in the sailing experience. That has
been knwon to backfire...I;'ve seen plenty of sailing families whose kids
have had it...they want a life on teh weekends other than going to the
marina and hanging about on a boat...they want their friends, parties,
shopping, etc. So then you have a choice: you let them go off by
themselves and suffer the consequences; or you make them go with you and
sit with a boatful of resentful kids who whine and pule about having to be
there...or...maybe you'll get lucky...once in a while a person does and
the kids take to it like ducks out of water...most likely not, though,, it
will be some combination of the first two scenarios. Enjoy what you have
now. Sail like you want now. You can't predict the future and you
shouldn't try reading into the lives of othersthings that may not be there
at all.


Bob has a great desire to put other people down... their lives, the things
they care about. He's a troll with medical problems, physical possibly and
certainly mental. Bob doesn't know about courtesy or civility, at least he's
not demonstrated such knowledge here, and this likely carries over to his
"real" life. He bought a nice boat, and now he thinks that makes him
important somehow. Anyone who takes him seriously just fuels his psychosis.
We should all be mindful of his disability.

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