TwinSailor wrote:
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Ironically, the wife and the daughter are having an awful time with
heeling. My son, well he wants to go fast. My son needs to learn the
finer things in life too but I struggle with watching the pain on my
daughter's face at the mere prospect of putting up the genoa.
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A lot of sailboats sail better flat anyways.
So if you have excessive heeling, reef in the main.