DC wrote:

YES YES YESS on this paragraph: "Now please elaborate as to why you
are squeamish about sailing with yourhusband... other than that he is a
New Yorker and thus genetically unable tohandle any vessel properly. Is
he prone to yelling, tantrums and blaming youfor his inability and lack
of confidence? Does he lack the ability toinstil in you a confidence and
comfort while on a vessel?"
Wish I had a Bobsprit but I don't, I have a rugby player, does that tell
you anything? lucky Suzanne! where do they sail from?
Diane Clark
Central New York

Dear "I have a fear of sailing with my husband",

Although this group appears at first glance to be a sow's ear, you
will find it lined with silk... which in no way means it's a silk
purse... just an exquisitely lined sow's ear. Nonetheless.... this
group has by far more sailing oriented resources than any other NG.

Now please elaborate as to why you are squeamish about sailing with
your husband... other than that he is a New Yorker and thus
genetically unable to handle any vessel properly. Is he prone to
yelling, tantrums and blaming you for his inability and lack of
confidence? Does he lack the ability to instil in you a confidence
and comfort while on a vessel?

I would suggest you contact Bobsprit on this group to take you out for
a sail. Robert is a totally house trained and obedient husband who
owns an off the rack sailboat and will never venture out of sight of
land. This should give you a benchmark to judge your own husband's
status. Then you and Roberts's wife Suzanne can decide on how to let
your husband meet hers so he can adopt some of Robert's submissive and
obedient behaviour. This should go a long way to assisting you in
establishing control.

CM


Like I said, enroll in a Womanship course or take private lessons at
a yacht club and learn more than he knows...and refuse to get on the
boat if he yells or demeans....