Harry,
Here is another study that lists infidelity as one of the major reasons for
divorce.
Since you know better than these "experts" what do you consider the major
reasons for divorce.
Reasons for divorce; divorce rate
What are the reasons given for divorce by the spouses? In order of
importance, women say (1) incompatibility and unhappiness, (2) husband's
alcohol, physical and verbal abuse, (3) husband's infidelity, (4)
disagreements about religion and children, (5) their own alcohol abuse, (6)
their own infidelity, and (7) their needs for independence. Men say (1) drug
abuse (wife's or his) and mental illness, (2) many differences (religion,
communication, in-laws), (3) his alcohol and physical abuse, (4) wife's
independence and infidelity, (5) incompatibility and unhappiness, (6) wife's
alcohol abuse, and (7) his infidelity (Cleek and Pearson, 1985). In general,
"emotional problems" are the most common cause of divorce; men cite "sexual
problems" three times more often than women and women cite an "affair" twice
as often as men (Janus & Janus, 1993). Quite often, people say they do not
really know why their spouse filed for divorce.
Helen Fisher, an anthropologist, has found that divorce worldwide occurs
most common in the fourth year of marriage or between ages 25 and 29. She
speculates that 4 years have been needed in human history to attract a mate,
establish a home, produce a child, and raise it until it was weaned. Humans
may have survived a few million years by changing partners with each new
child or every 4 or 5 years. She suggests it could be our genetic
inheritance.
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http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/7378833/
Extract
CHICAGO - About one in five ninth-graders report having had oral
sex
and almost one-third say they intend to try it during the next six
months, a small study of teens at two California schools reports.
The teenagers, whose average age was 14˝, also say oral sex is
less
risky, more common and more acceptable for their age group than
intercourse.
The researchers surveyed 580 ethnically diverse ninth-graders in
two
California public high schools.
Girls and boys reported similar experiences and opinions about
oral
sex, which surprised the study’s lead author, Bonnie
Halpern-Felsher, associate professor of pediatrics at University
of
California San Francisco.
I grew up in a progressive small city in Connecticut where most
kids
were sexually active no later than 13 or 14, and this was about 45
years ago, when the sale of condoms was "forbidden" in that state.
Forbidden, but openly sold. In fact, at one of my first afterschool
jobs, I worked at a family drugstore near my highschool where
boatloads of condoms were sold every day, and sometimes by me. In
my
naivete, I asked the pharmacist who owned the place if we were
going
to be arrested for selling rubbers, and he just laughed.
My parents made sure I know the mechanics of sex when I was nine or
10 years old, and my father made damned sure that I knew that I was
NOT to get any young pregnant.
It's really sad so many Americans are so hung up on sex. Sex is
great
fun, and, if you're careful, there need not be any negative
consequences.
Unless, of course, you are a repressed conservative.
My point was/is "I never has sex with that woman" is correct under
what appears to be the popular definition.
Oh, sure. Most of us got that when Clinton first brought it up. "Sex"
is intercourse. We knew that at age 13. Anything else was just
fooling
around.
Unbelievable. No wonder more than half of marriages end in divorce.
"But honey...I was just fooling around when I was sticking my tongue
in
her honey hole. It wasn't sex."
"Sex" is not the major reason for the failure of the majority of
marriages.
Sure it is. Sex with someone else.
Nope.
MAIN REASONS FOR DIVORCE 2004
- Extra-marital affair - 27%
- Family strains - 18%
- Abuse - 17%
- Mid-life crisis - 13%
- Addictions - 6%
- Workaholism - 6%
(Affairs aren't sex, though, right?)
You can do better than a "survey of UK matrimonial lawyers."
--
Bush and the NeoConvicts who control him
are destroying the once-great United States.