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On 18 Mar 2005 02:01:05 -0800, wrote:
Hi
Just to make sure you understand ; I showed the various posts to some
people who acturly know what they are talking about, they said "Per
don't bother there allway's be one sick person blind for fact, somone
who is not interested in what you offer but only is on the web to bully
and collect a group to bully somone.". That someone often is someone
more skilled than themself and you must know that there are sick
persons just waiting to bail out their filth, it is their joy maby the
only joy they find in their life, forget it don't ansver such
charecters it is useless.
It is a horribly difficult lesson to swallow, Per, I know: but I
eventually found it goes much easier on ones temperament to suppose
that any critical responder to one's posts ought to be thanked for
paying attention, with some effort to meet the various objections
offered.
There are cases where this approach cannot reasonably be used.
The remedy here, is to stay completely silent on the topic.
If one adopts this approach, flames extinguish almost immediately, and
one gets an unreasonably positive reputation for reasoned
reasonableness.
The alternative - responding defensively, fans flames, and leads
people to unreasonably suppose that one is defensive, even paranoid.
Best Wishes
Brian Whatcott Altus, OK
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