"Brien Alkire" wrote:

I want to her to develop some confidence in herself rather than in a
confidence that I probably won't fall overboard.

It's common for one person in the couple to have stronger skills at an
activity than the other. It is also common in those circumstances for the
more skilled person to cover for the other, which really hinders both.

We took two CGAux classes (Sailing and Seamanship and Coastal
Navigation) together, but they were classroom classes, and he didn't
help me any - I'm just as capable of learning as he is. I think he
expected to be bored, as he remarked to me that he'd learned
something.

I then took Annapolis Sailing School classes by myself on the
recommendation of my sister who married into a sailing family. She
and her SIL took the class together so that they would be able to run
the boat in an emergency and so that they would be able to tell if
their husbands were doing something unsafe.

It was a tenet of the ASS that couples did not sail together
especially in the beginning classes. They deliberately split up the
couples. And I think that is wise.

Would she consider taking a course on her own to avoid this common pitfall?

My wife and I took most of our sailing classes together. However, she took
one class on her own, attended several clinics on her own, and raced on
several boats before joining the same crew as I am on. It was a good
experience, and she is more confident in her own abilities as a result.



grandma Rosalie