So I take it you hate your family.

Jesus considered only one kind of relationship to be real--the oneness of God.
If I am God and my wife is God, then we are one. If I prefer to consider her
seperate from me "a wife" Then I actually hate her (that is, I work for our
separation). If I love her for real, then we are one, and that is the
equivalent of hating her as my wife--Therefore, in truth, I hate my wife
because I believe we are one, not two. That particular teaching of Christ is
difficult to understand and requires an entirely different mental paradigm
regarding relationships, love and hate.